Many times in our life we claim we trust and have faith in God, but when the trials come we tend to question God. We ask him why me Lord? Why now Lord? But what we fail to realize is, God is in control, he has a plan for our lives. Sometimes we might lose our friends, our family, our loved one, our homes, even our jobs. But everything has a reason and a plan behind it. God does not give us more than we can bear. When u are complaining that you don’t have money to buy what you want, remember there are people who don’t have money to buy what they need. The more we have is the more we want.

Instead of complaining all the time: When you wake up in the morning,

• Do you pray?
• Do you thank God for his mercies?
• Do you thank God for his grace?
• Do you thank God for life?
• Do you cry out to him and give him your full attention?

God can be a jealous God, if you spend more time on people and things in your life rather than giving god the time he deserves, he can take it all away. If God takes away the things that matter to you,

• Would you continue to serve him?
• Would you continue to thank him?
• Would you continue to love him?
• Would you continue to trust him?
• Would you continue to have faith in him?

We need to always continue to have faith and trust in God, no matter the circumstances that arise in our lives. When Jesus did his miracles and healing,  because of the faith of the people they were healed. They trusted him with all their heart. We as children of God, should be on a journey to increase our faith ever so often. God wants the best for all of us, he doesn’t want us to be sick, or diseased, sad and depressed. He wants to pour blessings upon us, but we have to show him how much we deserve these blessing by trusting and having faith in him.

It is good to push ourselves to trust and have faith, God can do wonderful things for us, just as in the gospels, Matthew, Mark, Luke and John. Gods ways are higher than our ways, his thoughts are higher than our thoughts. We have to focus our eyes on God, be still and remember he is God. God always has a purpose in the pain. No trials are wasted, if we go through the trials with god, trials always produce fruits.

😇Milz- blessed be the name of the Lord…if you have an interest in the article you can leave a like or comment below, thanks….

One small positive thought in the morning can change your whole day. Wake up with a smile, watch your self in the mirror and say to yourself “today is going to be a fantastic, stress free day”.  Find time in the morning to spend with God, do some stretches, meditate for 10 minutes, drink a nice cup of green tea, take in the fresh air that God provided for us. This would help you to go through your day peacefully, humble and pleasant. We tend to show more love, kindness and care when we start our day the right way.

Try smiling all day, no matter the situation or the circumstances, just keep smiling. This helps you to keep positive and recieve compliments from others. When you receive those compliments you will feel vibrant and fresh to continue your day no matter how bad it’s going. There are so many negativity in this world already, you don’t want to add more negative vibes to the world. Make it your business each day to make someone laugh or smile, make them feel that they are worth something, when they see you their day brightens up.

Stay away from negative people, people who do not have any worth in being in your life, these people are just there to make your life miserable, to make you feel down and out, to make you think you are nothing and you deserve nothing. If you can’t stay away from them then try your best to make them into positive minds also. Everyone deserves to be happy if they are willing to change. Remember if that negative vibes continues to be in the air, step away from it, or you would just be pulled down with it. Emotions are like magnets. If I am sad, someone else becomes sad, if I am happy everyone is happy, if i am positive then everyone feels that energy, if i am negative then they continue being negative.

Just keep smiling with a positive attitude. God is in control, u need not worry……

😇Milz-  we worship you God….if you find interest in the article you can like or comment below, thanks….

Most of the times when children are being abused they do not tell anyone about it and many keep there secret all there lives without any councilling or speaking out about it. Abusers are most likely to be persons we know, people we care about. Three quarter of the children who are abused know there abuser very well, they are most likely to be family members, neighbours, friends, baby sitters, some of them hold responsible positions in society. The closer the relationship between the victim and the abuser, the less likely they will speak of it.

Parents need to look out for warning signs – be aware of the hints given by children. They may not have the words to explain what is happening to them,, they may seem worried at times and upset. The response to the child should be very sensitive. Although it may be hard to think that someone you love and trust can commit such acts, be mindful that children would rarely lie of incidents like these, so be careful how you deal with the situation because the child trusted you enough to tell you their secret. It is important that a child feels supported, do not deny them or put aside the matter.

In situations like these, you should stay calm and listen, do not show them that you are angry, they might think you are angry with them and be fearful of you also. Make sure you show them how much you love them and support them. Let them know that they are doing the right thing by telling you, and they can trust you to protect them. When the situation becomes open, you must protect your child at all cost. Do what is necessary to protect your child from further harm.

Get help from professionals who can help and guide you and your family acordingly. It will hurt to know that someone you love so dearly has been hurt so badly. But if you get the necessary help it will help you and the child recover from that nightmare. The child may fear that the abuser may hurt them or their family, they might think that no one would believe them. The child can even have regrets of telling on the person, and want to take back what was said. They might feel unsure who they can trust further.

When abuse takes place within familiess, the pain we experience can be unbearable, emotional, and confused. Parents will feel that they let it happen to the child, they start feeling responsible for what happened, they start feeling guilty. But they also feel relieved that the abuse would stop. When the abuse happens within the family, each family member is affected and would need immediate counselling.
Parents may feel angry and betrayed by the abuser. They may have anger to the child for not letting them know earlier. As parents you will worry about the effects that it would have on your child. Parents and caregivers also need support at this time, to help coup with the trauma, the guilt, the hurt and pain behind it all.

It is important to get help for the child and your family, to overcome these feelings that can follow you for years to come. You will face challenges emotionally. This may be the time to turn to a councillor, a therapist or your family priest for emotional support. Do not keep it to yourself and think you can coup with it, think about the child and your family.

😇Milz- you are my strenght God….if you find interest in the article you can like or comment below, thanks….

As a child you feel as though you have no voice, you are so scared to speak out that something horrible is happening to you. You keep thinking that it’s your fault, that you caused it on yourself, that you are the reason for the preditors to come on to you. You feel as though you welcomed them into your life so much that they felt comfortable doing the things they did. Even though you wanted to stop it, it was so hard to do because they were bigger than you, you had to respect your elders, your family wouldn’t believe you because it was a close friend or family to you. Your fear just kept going on and on and on for days, months and years, about how to continue your life with all the pain, those sleepless nights, those horrible nightmares, the emotional stress behind it. The horror was seeing them every time, facing them all those years without a way out. The memory kept coming over and over again, making your life much more harder to face each day.

It was like carrying a burden with you for so many countless years, a heaviness on your shoulders, a stain on your soul that didn’t seem to wash away. It was so unbearing to carry around. Your trust decreased and you found yourself trying to find love where it was not supposed to be found. You started thinking suicide thoughts, how can you get out of this evil world, the world that has no purpose for you, you started cutting yourself with razors to get rid of the pain in your mind and heart, many times you put a knife pointed at your belly button just to punch it and bleed to death. You felt that your life had no worth, you weren’t important, It felt like you were a target to those preys, you thought you were going insane, knocking your head on the walls trying to kill yourself.
The smiles and laughs of those preys just got to you, they made it seem as though they were so innocent, they were not committing any evil act towards you,they made it look as though they were your protectors instead of your preditors.

Growing up became hard and much difficult, you started doing things that had ruined your life for years. You were not focusing in school, you were looking for love outside of your home, you were pretending to be someone you were not. You started to do things of the world.
When you were not getting attention from your peers you felt as though those preys took your beauty from you. You felt as though you were seen as a used up piece of junk. You cryed yourself to sleep trying to wonder what you were missing? Why don’t any one your age pay any interest in you?

Years had passed and you still felt the pain of those men/women touching you in your gentle parts. You still felt the pain of being raped by someone who knew you, and you still felt the pain of the first time it started at your tender age. After all these pains you find yourself questioning God. Asking him,

• Where were you when this was happening to me?
• Why did you make these men/women advantage me?
• How come you did not send help for me?

And many other unanswered questions we ask.

But God never leaves you alone when u keep praying to him and asking him to be in your favour. He will have a plan ahead for you. You just need to find him and hold on to him. His word will give you that freedom u wish to have. I found my husband who was and is a Christian. He loves me for who i am. He supports me all the time. I have given myself to Christ and i have gotten the comfort i was looking for all these years. When you go through these memories and pains, turn to God and he will comfort those pains. So when u feel like giving up remember there is always hope and someone to turn to, someone who will give you that comfort u so desire. He can be your friend, your mate, your love, your hope, your Almighty Father, your King, whatever u want him to be. He is your God. I have gained the strength from him to speak out, to face my fears. I hope u find your inspiration in my post and hope for your life to become better and for you to feel more worthy.

😇Milz- worthy is your name Jesus…if you find interest in the article you can like or comment below, thanks….

It is difficult for us to come out of our normal hidden lives that we live in. So many persons have been going through abuse and do not have the slightest clue that its happening. There are so many types of abuse out in the world.

1. Neglect

2. Physical abuse

3. Emotional and psychological abuse

4. Verbal abuse

5. Sexual abuse

And the list goes on. Most of the times you are unaware of being abused because of love and your relation to the person. They keep hurting you but u still don’t want them to get in trouble or even end up in jail, so u just continue trying to please them. On the other hand there are those who are not loved by you or have any relation with you but you are afraid of what they might do to you if you expose them. There have been times that women and men, boys and girls were abused but because of the abuser, they had no idea how to expose these people because they were either popular, a leader in society, someone who was trusted by others.

Normally we see in the media that people who are wealthy, popular and who are leaders usually get away with abuse because of their big lawyers, their publicity (where the public start to also abuse the victims), their pay offs and other unanswered reasons why the victims don’t receive justice.

Sometimes it’s good to tell someone about your abuse, this will help you to gain evidence that u were being abused. When we keep it to our selves its hard for people to believe us when we decide to speak out, it even impacts on you.

Victimized persons develop emotional and psychological problems secondary to their abuse. This will include anxiety disorders and various forms of depression. Some can develop substance abuse disorders. If abuse has been very severe, the victim may be traumatized and develop a post traumatic stress disorder. If abuse has happened at a very early age then a personality disorder can occur. Suicidal thoughts are prune to happen with abuse and emotional pain.

The fear caused by abuse is an emotion that can stick with you during and after the abuse. You feel defenceless, helpless and hopeless. It is scary and heart-breaking. You experience trauma, your emotions are warn out. Fear takes over your thoughts and feelings. People can do alot to help you out of this trauma but only you can take that pain and fear away. You will be afraid to go on, you will fear the future, but you must face those fears. Erase as many as you can with plans. Convincing your heart and challenging your fears, go a long way to ending the effects of abuse on your mind and heart.

We must realise that regardless of what has been done to you, its up to you to decide what to do with it. Allow the pain to teach you something rather than blaming someone or yourself for what has happened to you. Every painful experience has something good to come out of it. You will have that feeling of not wanting to move on, but there is always a purpose and gift for someone to share out of their experiences. Be an inspiration to those who are still in their shell and can’t find a way out. Be a help to those who can’t move on. Be a voice for those who are suffering the abuse at this time. Break the silence of abuse. Break the boundaries that you are comfortable with. The most important person that can hear you is yourself. It takes a lot of courage to speak out about your abuse, but it takes more courage to face the pain of your past. Focus in helping others to survive through these abuse, this can help you gain more confidence and strength to overcome your pain.

😇Milz- glory be to you my Lord…if you find interest in the article you could like or comment below….thanks

There are things that happened as a shock in your life that could never go from your mind, no matter how hard you try to forget. Do u remember something that happened to you at a tender age, that you just can’t get out of your head?

It started at the tender age of 4years. My parents trusted him. He lived right across the street from where I lived and was also a relative. I was always afraid to go across that road, but he had a way of calling me and my parents would ask me to go across and find out what he was calling for. When I returned back home and they asked me what did he call for? I always lied, because of his convincing threats to me.

I still remember those sexual favours he made me do to him and the thought of it is like wanting to commit suicide over and over and over again. I never knew if anyone had known about it and I always wondered if his wife ever wanted to know, why he had me up those stairs for those lenghtly periods? She never came up to check on me , or never did call me to make sure everything was ok.

As a child u don’t want to disobey anyone so u would do as they say. That’s how we were bought up in society. Everytime he called I knew what he wanted. Even when I was playing with my cousins outside their home he would call me up those stairs, I was so afraid of him that I used to obey him and go up, although I knew what he was calling me for. He threatened me all the time and said phases to me like; if I told anyone my parents would beat me very badly or the police would come and carry me away from home and I wouldn’t see my family again and many other such things. As a child I didn’t know the difference of what was bad from what was good in that particular situation so I just went with the flow. He always put his fingers on his lips and told me to shhhh…..

This continued happening for 2 years, until my mother inherited a house from her aunt to stay in and we moved out of the village we lived in at the time. After we moved out and I had to go visit my grandparents, he always tried to get me to come up those stairs, but I used to run away and go back to my grandparents house. I never stock around to hear him asking me to come up those stairs.

While I grew up in front of him,every time I saw him I remebered what he had done to me. For years after he kept asking me for sexual favours and I kept denying him of it. I was still afraid of him because he was a respected man in the society. He used to put on a religious act, taking part in religious activities all the time. He was known as a leader to people.

So my biggest fear was:

– If I told on him, would anyone believe me?

-Would they disgrace my name and say that I was lying?

-Would I be looked upon as an alien to others?

Years after I still wonder;

1. Was I the only one?

2. Was there more victims like me?

3. Am I to blame for him taking advantage of me?

4. Was anyone aware what was happening to me?

5. If there were more opened information about sexual abuse at that time would I have made a decision to let it out on the open?

And many more questions that arise in my head after all these years. I still don’t have the guts to let his family know the horrible person he was and the digraceful things he had done. When I heard people praising him I became so irritated and angry to know the person he really was. Yes, he probably was a good father to his children and a good husband to his wife and a good individual in society, but in my eyes he was the most horrible,disgraceful and evil person. After all those things that he did to me, I found it in my heart to forgive him. He died a couple of years ago, I didn’t attend his funeral, because I knew how hurt I would have felt, if I heard people speaking good of him. It would have taken me back to those days when I was just an innocent soul being taken advantage off.

I stop and wonder at times, how have I been struggling year after year with these feelings inside and still have the strength to go on and face the world. I never cried at that time, but as I was growing older and remembering those things that happened to me at that tender age, I became so emotional. I cried for nights, thought of suicide, was so angry at myself. It is a difficult task to go on but I am still here and I have made a decision to make a change to help others… I hope u follow me, because I have more stories to be told.

😇Milz- you are my protector God

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