Change is the only constant thing in your life…

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Don’t be scared to want something more for your life.  Fight for your dreams, no one else can fight for it but you, do not settle on your dreams , move further, do not compromise. Be a person who hates to fail. In life you will fail, but it’s what you do after those failures that counts. Push it aside and move forward. Take some risk that you may not want to take, it might be the risk worth taking.

No matter what you do in life, where you are striving to reach, there will always be people who will envy you, be unhappy for you. But don’t let this stop you from your dreams and goals. There would always be people trying to throw obstacles in your way, we can’t please everyone. Age is not an option for change, you can make a change any time in your life. If you know what you are passionate about, If you know what your’re good at, then invest in that. Become the best you can at it,  learn more on it, be mentored on it, find ways for you to be incredible at it.

There will be a time that you would start to get tired,  frustrated, you will think why is it so hard for me ? But when you think it’s just you, it’s not, don’t quite, keep striving, cause when you start having those negative feelings it’s time for you to have a break through. That break true in your life that would push you further to your dreams. You should feel better about yourself, since you stepped up to another level in your life. If success was a joyride, there would be a lot of successful people. But when you work hard, you gain experience, you get to know your strenghts and weaknesses, your boundaries.

You can always see someone else more successful than you and wonder why? Maybe you need to start working harder and doing more. Stop being lazy , spend less time on social media, watching TV,  just lying down and complaining. Spend more time in doing extra things to help build you up, to be the success you want to be. Start doing things you wouldn’t normally do, don’t settle for good, push your boundaries to GREAT. Discipline your self, be determined, be dedicated. Try figuring out where your power base is, build yourself up and keep yourself full. What shows your strength is what you do with your downfalls.   You will get feelings that some old habits may have to change, how you spend your time may have to change, you may even have to let go off some people in your life. That feeling can be the beginning of a new phase in your life,  it’s the feeling of  growth.

Many of us make New Year’s resolutions, but how many of us live up to them? Growth is change. It just happens, we are not prepared for it, but that’s what it is, it’s in our Nature. We don’t have to prepare Growth, we just have to move with it.  All you have to do is decide.

😇Milzcoc

 

 

 

Tears

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Tears is a part of life, it dosn’t last for long, God notices our tears. When we cry out we think that no one is seeing or hearing our cry, but God is paying attention to you. (Psalms 34:15- the eyes of the lord are on the righteous and his ears are attentive to their cry.)

 We cry in secret just to make sure no one can see us shedding our tears, but the lord sees our secret tears and he knows our pain. Tears of the Godly will be wiped away one day forever. Because we are surround by pain and sorrow all the time, it’s difficult for us to believe that there is a time we would not cry anymore .(Revelation 21:4- he will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain. For the old order of things has passed away.) 

Your tears would not be wasted if  you put your trust in God. Cry in faith and not despair, he allows us to cry out to him so we would know his presence of peace in the midst of confusion. Remember that God was once man on this earth, so he knows the feelings we have and pain we feel. But we wait patiently on that day when we cry no more and we are in the presence of our Lord forever.

🤗Milzcoc

 

Blessings

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Sometimes in life we have the wrong people around us that makes us block our blessings. You can block your blessing by allowing people in your life who should have been gone a long time ago. If you keep going backwards with the same people God tried to remove from your life, you will remain stuck. Learn to let go, what is meant for you will be for you. God wants you to be happy,  so if his will is to get rid of some bad habits, then trust him, he knows best.

🤗Milzcoc

Memories

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No matter how much in life you try to forget people who did you wrong, or things that happened to you that you dont want to remember, there is always something or somebody who reminds you of it. But when you have Christ in your heart and put our Almighty Father in every step of our life, although we remember, we also get the comfort we need to overcome it everytime. It hurts us alot inside, sometimes we cry it out, but in the end the memory just vanishes away once more. God has been so awesome to me and he continues to be the Amazing God everyone speaks about. When I’m in pain he gives me the strength, courage and comfort I need. Im blessed to be Stressfree.

 

Milzcoc🤗

The future is inside of you

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God has things inside of you that you haven’t tapped into yet. The reasons you woke up this morning is that God has plans for you, he isn’t finished working with you yet. There are so many things inside of you still wanting to come out. You are a testimony looking to be delivered. Something awesome is yet to come to you. Things are about to click into your life.

Dream with your eyes open, take advantage of your resources, stop complaining about everything. You got something in you that is stronger than the poison you put in your body. You need to be around people that could get in touch with your strength and power, once you discover who you are, the truth of knowing who you are will set you free. 

We have to bring out the best in people, support them in their dreams, stop putting down anyone who want to reach further than they are today. Stop making yourself feel like you are a looser, stop living in fear. Know what you want, when you find out what you want, fight for it, work for it, learn, do everything in your power to reach that victory. 

There is a power in you that could be somebody, reach somewhere. Winners win, and Loosers loose, so who are you? Stop being a victim, stop letting people treat you how they want and start treating yourself how you want to be treated. Recondition your mind, you have talents and skills you dont even know that you have. Expectation show up in behaviour not conversations. Sacrifice before you rein, treat people with respect, treat them the way you want to be treated, we are more than conquerors.

 

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Recognizing God in your battle

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You must recognize God in your battle, you don’t have to climb those walls or break it down by yourself. You are continually facing new challenges everyday, new issues, new problems all the time. But remember the battle is not yours, it belongs to God, so fight those battles with God, not alone. Have you recognized God in your situation? You must realize that there is a spiritual way of life to help you through your battles. We have to start realizing what is our work and what is Gods work.

God can show up anywhere at anytime, so instead of going around in circles by yourself, allow God to show you the path you need to move forward. Praying alone is sometimes not enough, you need prayer from others to help you through. There are times your battles can be won with the help of others praying for you, so when God sends help for you, grab it instead of driving it away. It’s not of God being for us, its about us being for God.

Some of you think you won your battles because of your secret fight, but you don’t realize that there is someone in their knees praying for you also. So don’t take all the praise, of you praying alone that caused you to win your battle. Ephisians 2:9 says- Not of our works alone lest any man should boast. 

The fight that you are up against is not yours, you don’t have to show up for the fight like a wrestler or boxer, you are not using God to get the victory, God is using you to get the victory, so don’t get it twisted, remember the battle is not yours it belongs to God. Fight your battle with strength not strain, stand and arm yourself for God to fight your battle for you. You would not fight the devil with what you can do, but with what God has in store for you to fight him with.

All our experiences should be a great experience with God, good ones and bad ones. Your situation can be your sanctuary. When God delivers you, people would not even believe your testimony, they would be shocked, they would think you are fibbing. This is because when God brings you out, he brings you all the way out. The situation that you are dealing with right now will come to pass. God would give you some storms to blow through your troubles, but it is worth going through those storms with God right by your side.

Shout out to him, cry out to him, kneel down for him, stay all the way with him, continue worshipping God no matter what you go through in your life. Drop down on your knees and worship him. When you make a sanctuary out of your situation, God will give you a strategy. When God gives you a strategy you can over come anything, but if you give God a strategy, he can’t help you because you can’t fight the battle by yourself. You cannot afford to think you know everything when dealing with God.

Try getting up on a Sunday morning and go to Church. Don’t go because you want to show people that you are going, or you want to be entertained by the music and dancing, or to see your friends, you should go to service on a Sunday to have an encounter with GOD. You should have a joy to serve God and worship him. Not only on a Sunday but everyday of our life. Isaiah 41:10 says- So do not fear for I am with you…i will strengthen you and help you…

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You are not a convenience store

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Many times in our lives we fail to see and realize that there are people who use us without any remorse. Yet still if they ask for help you will continue to help them. I guess it’s in your nature to help people, no matter how much you are hurt by them, no matter how much they advantage your kindness, you just keep doing what that word says “HELP”. Sometimes we need to stop and think, is it worth your time and energy going out of your way to help those who take advantage of your good heart? Most of the times you are so helpful and kind to people, but when you need that same help and kindness, the only person giving you what you need is GOD.

These people resemble serpants, they come into your life to use you, they don’t come into your life to love you, they come into your life to take from you. No matter how much you help them, when you need the help, you don’t receive it. There is an old saying ” one hand don’t clap”. When you remove these people from your life, they will make everyone think that you are the bad person, that you are the wrong one, instead they are the ones who treated you wrong. But do not feel guilty for cutting someone out of your life who dont deserve to be in your tommorows. The people with the kindest hearts always seem to be the ones who get taken advantage of. You need to start respecting yourself, don’t let people take advantage of you. I am not telling you to stop helping people, i am just simply saying be on alert, know the signs when you are being taken advantage of and turn the page.

Your self esteem will improve if you stop letting people advantage you. You see, when people take advantage of you, it leads to depression, feeling of hopelessness, internal anger. These are things we try to avoid from our daily lives. We need to stay away from those people who will trigger off these emotions that you clearly want out of your life.

Yes you are helpful, nice and want to please everyone, but ease off on it a little, have some boundaries. Respect yourself. Did you like that feeling of being treated unfair? How did it feel? I am sure you did not like the feeling. This does not mean that you treat people differently, you just need to be polite when you are standing up for your rights. You don’t have to be on a high horse and start acting out. Step up and be brave, don’t let it continuously happen. Putting other people needs before yourself could be their needs, its ok to say NO sometimes.

When you feel you are pushed to do or give to someone else, but you know its not what you want to do, or its not right, take a breather, think before you act, learn to stand up for yourself. I’m sure you had persons taking from you, borrowing from you, and now they don’t speak to you, they say bad things about you, they stopped being your friend, they don’t check for you anymore. This is because they have gotten what they wanted and they don’t need you anymore.

You need to surround yourself with good people, you may not have much friends, but a few is better to have than a lot, who would not treat you the way you are deserved. Good friends are there to catch you when you fall, you can do the same for them also. You will never be alone in your problems when you have good friends, especially the ones who pray a lot. We need to forgive people, but be mindful of what happened to you so it wouldn’t reaccure. Make conscious choices because of your past experiences. No need for grudges, we shouldn’t have grudges, just do not blindly disregard the past.

Matthew 6:14-15 says ” For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others thierssins your heavenly father will not forgive yours sins”. 

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When two becomes one😇🙌🙏👫💑💞💍

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Meeting someone and courting them is just the beginning of getting to really know a person. I always heard the older folks using the phrase “you don’t really know a person until u start living with them”. When a couple loves each other and decides to become one through matrimony, that dosen’t mean they know each other fully. It means that they just started to learn about each other. Learning about one another could take months and years, everyday goes by, we either learn something good or bad about the person we fell in love so dearly with.

Marriage is a union between two persons merging together to become one. Marriage should be official and permanent, not cut short by divorce. I may not be an expert on marriage or neither have been married for decades, but my eight years of experience has opened my mind and heart to having a successful marriage till this date. Our marriage is not perfect, we have our ups and downs, our good times and bad times, our disagreements and heartbreak at times. We have fights and quarrels just like any other couple does, but I remember an old sister in church saying to me, ” do not let the sun go down without making mends with each other or we would wake up with the same haste as we went to bed with.”

God should have a place in your marriage, your marriage should be an open book to God. Remember we cannot hide anything from God, he sees everything that goes on in our minds and hearts. Block out the worldy things that brings problems to your marriage. Strengthen your marriage by praising God each and every day. If you have kids, your priority after God is your family, they come first before everything else. We tend to put things in front our marriage and family life, then when our marriage is not working out we blame each other and sometimes God. We start treatening to leave, we start frustrating each other by treating each other very harshly.  Cursing out, fighting without reasoning, slamming doors at each other and many other evil thoughts and deeds. Futher more, we do not think about the kids that would be affected by a broken marriage/family. We don’t realize that the children are alive, they can hear and see, they observe, we think they don’t understand but they do. So next time u tell a child it is none of their business, or this is between adults or even they are to small to understand, think twice because it affects them the most. We as adults think about the hurt and pain we endure but what about the hurt and pain your child/ children have to face.

The most common word used in a marriage is LOVE. 1corinthians 13:7 says- Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” When trials comes your way be hopeful. As you go through each day together think of what legacy you would want to leave behind for the kids, is it LOVE or HATE? Encourage each other, start supporting each other, your welfare of your marriage lies in your hands. At times couples go through a crisis in their marriage, it doesn’t mean as soon as a crisis arises we start speaking of divorce. Many times we can still put the pieces back together, but we fail to try, we become lazy in doing the work to fix the damage in the marriage. Instead of closing the door in your marriage, make an attempt to get some help in areas where needed. Get some marriage councilling, attend marriage retreats, spend some quality time together without any distractions of the world. Pray together about the problems in your marriage and pray that God strengthen your marriage. There is an old saying that a lot of persons use ” a family that prays together, stays together”. Avoid daily attractions of life, focus on your relationship. When I say attractions, I mean all distractions. I’v seen spouses putting their work first, technology first, friends first, alcohol and drugs first, money first instead of their marriage/family life. Instead of being on social media all the time, on your phone, on the computer, on your tablet, try spending that time doing something together. Play games together, read together, watch a movie together, have an out door activity together. There are so many things you can do together that can save a marriage from falling apart.

When we spend time together as a married couple we bond together, we form an unbreakable alliance, it gives us less time to lust upon things that should not matter in our lives or even be concentrated on at all. All worldly things would not have space to enter into the marriage, then we would be less tempted to partake of them. All marriages has challenges, but if we decide to face those challenges, it will determine if the marriage will fall apart or hold together, so be careful how you approach those challenges. People tend to forget the vows that were made when they got married. Marriage is bonded under the eyes of God, “God hates divorce”(Malachi 2:16). Marriage is meant to be a special covenant between a man and  woman and God.  (Matthew 19:3-9)- ” the Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause.? And he answered and said unto them, have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said for this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they two shall be one flesh?  Wherefore they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man separate. 

Even if we don’t take our marriage seriously, we should understand that God is a serious God.

Proverbs 20:25-says ” it is a snare for a man to devote rashly something as holy, and afterward to reconsider his vows.”

Only a God fearing person would give their all to saving a marriage from stumbling and falling. So are you a God fearing person?

 

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A roller coaster life

I have seen people making videos of other individuals and laughing about it. And we as people condone these type of behaviours because we like, comment and share it. Some of the videos are made with people who are not educated, or have the same interlect as you, or who never learned to read and write. Not everybody had the same parents as you, or the same opportunities as you, or the same wealth as you, or the same upbringing as you. Everyone is different and everyone lives a different life style, be it rich, poor, happy, sad, miserable whatever kind of life they lived, we are not supposed to laugh at anyone or bring down their character in any manner.

In todays society, every thing that happens we post on social media. If your neighbour has an out house instead of proper toilet facilities u video tape and post it. We are all human beings and we all have feelings of some kind. We need to be more caring, loving and protective of our neighbour than instead of abusing there trust and privacy. When I say the word neighbour, i don’t mean your next door neighbour only, this stretches to family, friends, people in society, strangers.

You ever took a moment and wondered, how would u feel if someone had done that to you? Have you ever considered that it could have been you in that situation, crying and stressed because somebody disgraced your privacy? Well if you haven’t then u better start thinking out loud. We are all our brothers keeper, no matter how bad the person is at spelling, or they don’t know the answers to questions, or where the person lives, or how much children they have and can’t take care of them properly because they are poor,think before you publicise these individuals.

When things happen to us, or things are not going the way it should, we then blame God or others. Yes you may have followers on social media, you may have a paycheck coming in every month, your business is booming, your wealth and wants are flowing, but do you really have a peace of mind? How can you sleep at night knowing the horrible things that you do just for fame and money.

Why don’t we try to help these people instead of bringing them down, making them feel less than they already feel of them selves, help them to gain self confidence. Help them to think differently. Everyone deserves to learn, everyone deserves a better life. So the next time you decide to post on social media, make sure it’s something good about someone. Remember what goes around, comes right back around. Remember God watches every move.

 

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Watching your child being bullied

It’s hard enough when u have to go through 9 months of carrying your child and go through the days and nights of labour, nurture them as infants and then feel sad when they have to start school. You worry if they will be taken care off just as you take care of them at home.

Then you have to face the fact that there are bullies out there in schools. Who’s parents are not caring if their child is being a bully to another child and teachers who are just not doing their job.

Infants need attention every minute of their lives, at home and in school. When parents drop there infants at day cares and kindergarten, they expect the care givers and teachers to be extra careful with their child. I personally have seen that 90% of the care givers and teachers do not care about the child, they just business about getting a salary at the end of the month. One particular kindergarten that my nephew goes to, the teachers are always sitting chating, not even watching the kids attentively. There is one particular teacher who has to do every thing and even takes her time to watch the kids, but how much can she do when the rest of them are just sitting around playing the fool.

There are some care givers and teachers who will take the time to pay attention to the child/children every minute of the day, they would make sure the children are being friendly to each other, keeping there bad habits at home. They will take the time to teach children about bullying and the effects of bullying. One example is my Sister-in-law who is a kindergarten teacher at present.

The Ministry of Education needs to do something about children being bullied by teachers and other children. Some supervisors who visit schools, evaluate the school and recommend that it closes done, but then it stays open because the owners of the school pays a bribe or knows somebody in authority. That’s how the cycle works.

Some teachers usually bully the child who cannot speak, knowing he/she would not be able to say who did the injury to him/her or what happened. So they take advantage of that child’s weakness. So u see your child coming home with a mark in there skin and they can’t explain who did it or how they got it because the child cannot speak fluently.

Then sometimes there are parents who use the phase, don’t let anybody hit you in school, if they hit you, hit them back. These are things we need to stop teaching our children. This is what starts a child off to become a hater to others. If u want information on bullying, check out my website, i wrote about bullying in one of my blogs, so u can scroll and take a read about bullying. We need to start controlling this before it gets to serious.

 

Milz- To God be the glory….

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