You are not a convenience store

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Many times in our lives we fail to see and realize that there are people who use us without any remorse. Yet still if they ask for help you will continue to help them. I guess it’s in your nature to help people, no matter how much you are hurt by them, no matter how much they advantage your kindness, you just keep doing what that word says “HELP”. Sometimes we need to stop and think, is it worth your time and energy going out of your way to help those who take advantage of your good heart? Most of the times you are so helpful and kind to people, but when you need that same help and kindness, the only person giving you what you need is GOD.

These people resemble serpants, they come into your life to use you, they don’t come into your life to love you, they come into your life to take from you. No matter how much you help them, when you need the help, you don’t receive it. There is an old saying ” one hand don’t clap”. When you remove these people from your life, they will make everyone think that you are the bad person, that you are the wrong one, instead they are the ones who treated you wrong. But do not feel guilty for cutting someone out of your life who dont deserve to be in your tommorows. The people with the kindest hearts always seem to be the ones who get taken advantage of. You need to start respecting yourself, don’t let people take advantage of you. I am not telling you to stop helping people, i am just simply saying be on alert, know the signs when you are being taken advantage of and turn the page.

Your self esteem will improve if you stop letting people advantage you. You see, when people take advantage of you, it leads to depression, feeling of hopelessness, internal anger. These are things we try to avoid from our daily lives. We need to stay away from those people who will trigger off these emotions that you clearly want out of your life.

Yes you are helpful, nice and want to please everyone, but ease off on it a little, have some boundaries. Respect yourself. Did you like that feeling of being treated unfair? How did it feel? I am sure you did not like the feeling. This does not mean that you treat people differently, you just need to be polite when you are standing up for your rights. You don’t have to be on a high horse and start acting out. Step up and be brave, don’t let it continuously happen. Putting other people needs before yourself could be their needs, its ok to say NO sometimes.

When you feel you are pushed to do or give to someone else, but you know its not what you want to do, or its not right, take a breather, think before you act, learn to stand up for yourself. I’m sure you had persons taking from you, borrowing from you, and now they don’t speak to you, they say bad things about you, they stopped being your friend, they don’t check for you anymore. This is because they have gotten what they wanted and they don’t need you anymore.

You need to surround yourself with good people, you may not have much friends, but a few is better to have than a lot, who would not treat you the way you are deserved. Good friends are there to catch you when you fall, you can do the same for them also. You will never be alone in your problems when you have good friends, especially the ones who pray a lot. We need to forgive people, but be mindful of what happened to you so it wouldn’t reaccure. Make conscious choices because of your past experiences. No need for grudges, we shouldn’t have grudges, just do not blindly disregard the past.

Matthew 6:14-15 says ” For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others thierssins your heavenly father will not forgive yours sins”. 

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When two becomes one😇🙌🙏👫💑💞💍

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Meeting someone and courting them is just the beginning of getting to really know a person. I always heard the older folks using the phrase “you don’t really know a person until u start living with them”. When a couple loves each other and decides to become one through matrimony, that dosen’t mean they know each other fully. It means that they just started to learn about each other. Learning about one another could take months and years, everyday goes by, we either learn something good or bad about the person we fell in love so dearly with.

Marriage is a union between two persons merging together to become one. Marriage should be official and permanent, not cut short by divorce. I may not be an expert on marriage or neither have been married for decades, but my eight years of experience has opened my mind and heart to having a successful marriage till this date. Our marriage is not perfect, we have our ups and downs, our good times and bad times, our disagreements and heartbreak at times. We have fights and quarrels just like any other couple does, but I remember an old sister in church saying to me, ” do not let the sun go down without making mends with each other or we would wake up with the same haste as we went to bed with.”

God should have a place in your marriage, your marriage should be an open book to God. Remember we cannot hide anything from God, he sees everything that goes on in our minds and hearts. Block out the worldy things that brings problems to your marriage. Strengthen your marriage by praising God each and every day. If you have kids, your priority after God is your family, they come first before everything else. We tend to put things in front our marriage and family life, then when our marriage is not working out we blame each other and sometimes God. We start treatening to leave, we start frustrating each other by treating each other very harshly.  Cursing out, fighting without reasoning, slamming doors at each other and many other evil thoughts and deeds. Futher more, we do not think about the kids that would be affected by a broken marriage/family. We don’t realize that the children are alive, they can hear and see, they observe, we think they don’t understand but they do. So next time u tell a child it is none of their business, or this is between adults or even they are to small to understand, think twice because it affects them the most. We as adults think about the hurt and pain we endure but what about the hurt and pain your child/ children have to face.

The most common word used in a marriage is LOVE. 1corinthians 13:7 says- Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” When trials comes your way be hopeful. As you go through each day together think of what legacy you would want to leave behind for the kids, is it LOVE or HATE? Encourage each other, start supporting each other, your welfare of your marriage lies in your hands. At times couples go through a crisis in their marriage, it doesn’t mean as soon as a crisis arises we start speaking of divorce. Many times we can still put the pieces back together, but we fail to try, we become lazy in doing the work to fix the damage in the marriage. Instead of closing the door in your marriage, make an attempt to get some help in areas where needed. Get some marriage councilling, attend marriage retreats, spend some quality time together without any distractions of the world. Pray together about the problems in your marriage and pray that God strengthen your marriage. There is an old saying that a lot of persons use ” a family that prays together, stays together”. Avoid daily attractions of life, focus on your relationship. When I say attractions, I mean all distractions. I’v seen spouses putting their work first, technology first, friends first, alcohol and drugs first, money first instead of their marriage/family life. Instead of being on social media all the time, on your phone, on the computer, on your tablet, try spending that time doing something together. Play games together, read together, watch a movie together, have an out door activity together. There are so many things you can do together that can save a marriage from falling apart.

When we spend time together as a married couple we bond together, we form an unbreakable alliance, it gives us less time to lust upon things that should not matter in our lives or even be concentrated on at all. All worldly things would not have space to enter into the marriage, then we would be less tempted to partake of them. All marriages has challenges, but if we decide to face those challenges, it will determine if the marriage will fall apart or hold together, so be careful how you approach those challenges. People tend to forget the vows that were made when they got married. Marriage is bonded under the eyes of God, “God hates divorce”(Malachi 2:16). Marriage is meant to be a special covenant between a man and  woman and God.  (Matthew 19:3-9)- ” the Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause.? And he answered and said unto them, have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said for this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they two shall be one flesh?  Wherefore they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man separate. 

Even if we don’t take our marriage seriously, we should understand that God is a serious God.

Proverbs 20:25-says ” it is a snare for a man to devote rashly something as holy, and afterward to reconsider his vows.”

Only a God fearing person would give their all to saving a marriage from stumbling and falling. So are you a God fearing person?


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A roller coaster life

I have seen people making videos of other individuals and laughing about it. And we as people condone these type of behaviours because we like, comment and share it. Some of the videos are made with people who are not educated, or have the same interlect as you, or who never learned to read and write. Not everybody had the same parents as you, or the same opportunities as you, or the same wealth as you, or the same upbringing as you. Everyone is different and everyone lives a different life style, be it rich, poor, happy, sad, miserable whatever kind of life they lived, we are not supposed to laugh at anyone or bring down their character in any manner.

In todays society, every thing that happens we post on social media. If your neighbour has an out house instead of proper toilet facilities u video tape and post it. We are all human beings and we all have feelings of some kind. We need to be more caring, loving and protective of our neighbour than instead of abusing there trust and privacy. When I say the word neighbour, i don’t mean your next door neighbour only, this stretches to family, friends, people in society, strangers.

You ever took a moment and wondered, how would u feel if someone had done that to you? Have you ever considered that it could have been you in that situation, crying and stressed because somebody disgraced your privacy? Well if you haven’t then u better start thinking out loud. We are all our brothers keeper, no matter how bad the person is at spelling, or they don’t know the answers to questions, or where the person lives, or how much children they have and can’t take care of them properly because they are poor,think before you publicise these individuals.

When things happen to us, or things are not going the way it should, we then blame God or others. Yes you may have followers on social media, you may have a paycheck coming in every month, your business is booming, your wealth and wants are flowing, but do you really have a peace of mind? How can you sleep at night knowing the horrible things that you do just for fame and money.

Why don’t we try to help these people instead of bringing them down, making them feel less than they already feel of them selves, help them to gain self confidence. Help them to think differently. Everyone deserves to learn, everyone deserves a better life. So the next time you decide to post on social media, make sure it’s something good about someone. Remember what goes around, comes right back around. Remember God watches every move.


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Watching your child being bullied

It’s hard enough when u have to go through 9 months of carrying your child and go through the days and nights of labour, nurture them as infants and then feel sad when they have to start school. You worry if they will be taken care off just as you take care of them at home.

Then you have to face the fact that there are bullies out there in schools. Who’s parents are not caring if their child is being a bully to another child and teachers who are just not doing their job.

Infants need attention every minute of their lives, at home and in school. When parents drop there infants at day cares and kindergarten, they expect the care givers and teachers to be extra careful with their child. I personally have seen that 90% of the care givers and teachers do not care about the child, they just business about getting a salary at the end of the month. One particular kindergarten that my nephew goes to, the teachers are always sitting chating, not even watching the kids attentively. There is one particular teacher who has to do every thing and even takes her time to watch the kids, but how much can she do when the rest of them are just sitting around playing the fool.

There are some care givers and teachers who will take the time to pay attention to the child/children every minute of the day, they would make sure the children are being friendly to each other, keeping there bad habits at home. They will take the time to teach children about bullying and the effects of bullying. One example is my Sister-in-law who is a kindergarten teacher at present.

The Ministry of Education needs to do something about children being bullied by teachers and other children. Some supervisors who visit schools, evaluate the school and recommend that it closes done, but then it stays open because the owners of the school pays a bribe or knows somebody in authority. That’s how the cycle works.

Some teachers usually bully the child who cannot speak, knowing he/she would not be able to say who did the injury to him/her or what happened. So they take advantage of that child’s weakness. So u see your child coming home with a mark in there skin and they can’t explain who did it or how they got it because the child cannot speak fluently.

Then sometimes there are parents who use the phase, don’t let anybody hit you in school, if they hit you, hit them back. These are things we need to stop teaching our children. This is what starts a child off to become a hater to others. If u want information on bullying, check out my website, i wrote about bullying in one of my blogs, so u can scroll and take a read about bullying. We need to start controlling this before it gets to serious.


Milz- To God be the glory….

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Quality, not Quantity

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What did Jesus mean when He said that the widow had put more money into the treasury than anyone else (Mark 12:43- “And he called unto him his disciples,and saith unto them, Verily I say unto you. That this poor widow hath cast more in, than all they which have cast into the treasury.”) 

Clearly, He was indicating that economic value is relative. The widow’s contribution would have been nothing but spare change to the rich who preceded her. But to her, two mites represented enormous value. It was “all that she had, her whole livelihood” (Mark 12:44- “For all they did cast in of their abundance, but she of her want did cast in all that she had, even all her living”). Replacing it would be difficult, if not impossible; as a poor widow, she was probably unemployable. Giving it to God meant that she could not use it to buy her next crust of bread.

But Jesus indicated that God placed moral rather than economic value on her tiny offering. Her gift showed that she was giving herself entirely to God and trusting in him to meet her needs. Her use of money disclosed the moral and Spiritual condition of her heart.

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Inspired by: Nelsons bible commentary


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The word of God says it all, we read the word but dont take time to study and understand the meaning of the words. We dont take time to go indept of what God is saying to us. I choose this book and verses for you to read, because it is very simple to understand and it tells us the details of what is actually happening in the world today as was in those days of Christ and his disciples. It tells us that God gives us our choice to choose between him and evil. The devil is a temptor he cannot make us do the things of the world, he just tempts us, we have our own choices to make. Just as Christ was tempted on the mount by satan, he made his choices either to listen to satan or listen to God. That’s why Christ is perfect, he did his fathers will no matter how much satan tempted him.

Romans 1:21-32 says,

21. Because that when they knew God, they glorified him not as God,  neither were thankful;  but became vain in their imagination,  and their foolish heart was darkened.

22. Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools,

23. And change the glory of the uncorruptible God into and image made like to corruptible man, and to birds and fourfooted beasts,and creeping things.

24. Wherefore, God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves:

25: Who changes the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed forever Amen.

26. For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:

27. And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the women, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.

28. And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;

29. Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness, full of envy, murder, deceit, malignity, whisperers,

30. Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,

31. Without understanding, covenant breakers, without natural affection,implaceable, unmerciful:

32. Who knowing the judgement of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.

We have our choices to make in life, a lot of us watch the beauty of money, fame, wealth in this world instead of watching the beauty of heaven. Yes we have all these wonderful things in this world but it is only temporary, we have the things of God forever. So dont let the wonders of this world fool you into loving it more than our almighty God.

Romans 6:23- ” For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”


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God knows the sacrifice and suffering you’ve been through

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God knows the suffering you have been through,he knows the sacrifice you’ve made, he knows your faith in him. No matter how much you’ve sacrificed, the old car you drove that kept breaking down all the time, the house with all the leaks on the roof and the floor with all the cracks, the one suit or dress you wore to church, the biscuit you ate for breakfast, lunch and dinner. God never gave up on you. You believed in him and suffered and sacrificed and holded on to the faith. You are a Christian because of your living sacrifice, no matter what you’ve been through you faced your fears year after year, you seeked the kingdom of God first.

Christ told you to take up your cross and follow him, its not easy to be a living sacrifice. Prayer, prayer, prayer….. Suffer for him, he deserves your suffering, you will know in the end, that it is worth suffering for him. He gave up his life on the cross for us. Jesus was obedient till death. As a lamb he paid the price, the ultimate sacrifice, he could have been the lion of Judah, but he choose being the lamb to sacrifice himself for us.

To be like Jesus you have to take up your cross and walk, your cross is not a piece of wood, it can be your marriage, your job, your love to someone who don’t love you, you give and give and they take and take. You are not a Christian with what works in your life, you are a Christian with what doesn’t work in your life. When your success takes place in your life people look at the wealth you have, but God sees the suffering and sacrifices you made to be blessed today. Real value is determined by sacrifice. Take a minute and thank God for blessing you and helping you lift that cross and walk with you.

  • Where is your cross?
  • Where is your faith?
  • Where is your consistency?

How can you ask for a crown if you never had a cross?

Don’t watch what people have or what they do and wish it was you. God says hang on there, he has bigger plans for you. God doesn’t forget your labour of love. You’re not a Christian because you attend church Sunday mornings or you sing in the church choir, or you are in the church ministry, or you watch Christian programs. You are a Christian because you are a living sacrifice, you are a Christian because you got your cross, you are a Christian because you are nailed to something that is giving you pain, you are a Christian because you are nailed to something that makes you bleed. And you still praise God, and you still worship and serve him, and you still kneel and pray, and you are still holding on to him. You’ve been faithful although you’ve been hurting, you’ve been faithful although you’ve been scared, if you’ve faced your fears and did it anyway, that’s what makes you a Christian.

Because you have no success to show now doesn’t mean you are less in value than anyone else. You will reap in due season. It is worth the sacrifice to take up your cross and walk, it is worth being a living sacrifice. Jesus did not come down from that cross to save himself, that sacrifice was for us… I am an example of that sacrifice…..God never gives you more than you can bear, he will never forsake you.

Hebrews 6:10- ” God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and labour of love…”

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