As I was watching one of my favourite tv series on true stories from the 1960’s, it hit me that bullying had been happening from generation to generation. I watched a story of a 23 year old man who started from the age of 10 years old, stealing comic book posters and books from theaters, book stores, wherever he saw them as an easy access to take. He didn’t think he was doing anything wrong because he wasn’t hurting anyone, all he wanted was to be like the superheroes in the comic book and posters. He was a short stumpy little fella from as young as he could remember. All he wanted to be is like those superheroes who were tall and strong and had super powers. He said he was always hurt by others, but if he was a superhero he would be strong, no one could hurt him. His father left him when he was only an infant (1year) and it was just him and his mother. His mother was supportive to him, but not of the crime, because she used to think he traded and won the stuff. They were not rich but she showed him love all the time. As a child without a father and he being stumpy and all, he always got beat upon by his peers.
It was hard for him to be the only child without a father in the classroom. He always thought if he was strong like those super heroes his father wouldn’t have left him. The kids will always call him fatso and butterball, they would beat him up and throw his books in the garbage can, they punched him in his stomach over and over repeatedly. He said it wasn’t the pain of the beating that made him cry, what made him cry was he hadn’t done anything to anyone and yet everyone hated him. He asked, why should anyone hate a kid just because he was fat? Being a fat kid is bad enough without having people hate him for it. He claimed as he watched these movies with these superheroes, he felt like it was him in the movies, he felt like he was someone special. He never had any real friends, all the friend he ever had was his superheroes in those posters on his walls. People may laugh and think he was mad or psych, but he was really suffering from anxiety and depression and needed counciling to get back his self confidence. He felt that his entire life was in one small room with the comic strips and posters of his heroes.
Bullying is a widespread problem, it can take a toll on everything, from your self-esteem to your physical health. People who bully harm and humiliate smaller,weaker, younger persons or those who are more vulnerable than the bully. They deliberately and repeatedly cause harm on others who are lesser in power. Bullies are made, not born, it happens at an early age. Parents, Adults, Teachers should lookout for signs of bullying. Missing belonging, unexplained injuries and limited number of friends. Look out for unexplained emotion and behaviour. Adults should research more information on bullying to teach their children. Find the time, make the effort to speak of bullying with your kids, when your child does something hurtful to another child do not condone it by laughing at the matter, sit down and speak to them, let them know what they did was wrong. If you don’t resolve this at an early age it could get more serious later on and become a habit to the child/ person. I didn’t know much about bullying until my nephew was bullied in school recently. He is only 3years old. At first he was so excited to go to school then all of a sudden his attitude changed, he was crying every morning, he didn’t want to stay in the school, he wasn’t eating in school. Then his mother saw it happening one morning to him in front of her, he was being bullied verbally by a child. It turns out the child was doing it to other children also. Now the problem is resolved and he loves to go to school again.
Parents and teachers need to pay close attention to what happens around them more with the kids. If a child looks depressed, cries alot, is always by themselves, not interacting with other kids, then something is wrong. It may not be bullying but it could be something else, find the time to sit and talk to the child, find out what is bothering them. Question the child in a way that they are comfortable with you. Parents Need to stop telling their kids to beat up on other kids, don’t let anybody touch you and get away with it, hit them back, fight them back. If we continue doing this then we continue raising bullies. Instead, teach them to be open to you about what is happening in their life. If we practice this then there would be less hatred and more love to go around. If bullies are not stopped at a young age and thought the right things, they become bullies all their lives. Bullying can also effect the victims life if they don’t receive help.
Bullying is when someone is being hurt either by words or action on purpose, usually more than once, feels bad because of it and has a hard time stopping what is happening to them.
Bullying can be physical;
- Like hitting
- Pushing and shoving
- Tripping someone on purpose
- Yelling at someone reapeatedly
- Making rude gesture towards someone
- Taking and breaking someone else stuff
Bullying can also be Emotional;
- Like name calling
- Making fun of someone
- Laughing at someone
- Leaving someone out on purpose
- Starting rumors about someone
- People trying to send mean message via technology( cyber bullying), trying to make someone feel bad about who they are.
Bullying can happen anywhere. Let’s talk about Cyber Bullying. This is one of the biggest problems now faced because of technology. The internet, emails, cell phones, social media. Bullies use these to:
- send mean messages,
- post statements that are unkind or not true
- send or post pictures that are not theirs to share
- make negative comments online about someone
- agreeing with someone who posts something hurtful.
Although bullying was not a term used in the bible, there are some scriptures that helps you to deal with those who treat you poorly and shows you how to respond. One that I really like is taken from 2 Timothy 1:7- ” For the spirit God gives us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love, and self-discipline.
BULLYING IS NOT OK, BULLYING IS NOT COOL, BULLYING IS NOT ACCEPTABLE. NO ONE DESERVES TO BE BULLIED.
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